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If you want to catch beasts you don’t see every day.
You have to go places quite out-of-the-way.
You have to go places no others can get to.
You have to get cold, and you have to get wet, too
…Dr. Seuss

If you want to risk an extraordinary life, you have to go the places no one else goes, take the risks no one else will risk, be the person no one else dares to be. Your own extraordinary life doesn’t have to be ‘extra-ordinary’ to anyone’s eyes but your own. You know what feels right for you. You know, deep down, how much you are capable of being. Dare to risk being it.

Who could you be that you aren’t being?
What do you want to do that you aren’t doing?
What ‘places quite out-of-the-way’ would you have to go to be that person and do those things?
What is something (no matter how small) you could do today to move in that direction?

Remember, no matter what circumstances you may feel constrain you or hold you back, you are always in control of who you are ‘being’. If you can change nothing else, you can change that. Just try it and see what else follows.

You may find yourself feeling a little uncomfortable as you move out of who you’re comfortable being, and risk being something else, even if that something else on some level feels more ‘right’, more ‘you’. Becoming all you are capable of being is sometimes very scary. As one of my favourite quotes says:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

– Marianne Williamson

And sometimes you have to get cold and wet on the road to where and who you choose to be. But if you can brave a little dirty weather along the way –

– then ‘Oh, the places you’ll go!’

In the end, you’ll realise that it wasn’t the end you were after anyway. It was the path that got you there that was the point after all. It was the places it took you, it was the cold and the wet and the sun and the warmth, it was the adventure.

Dare to risk going places not because you don’t want to be where you are, but because you want to see what else there is. Explore. You know what it’s like to be where and who you are now. You can keep doing and being that. Or you can play with life.

I’ve made my choice – but largely because for me, there is no other choice I can make. I can’t listen to Life dancing outside my window, calling me out to play, and steadily ignore it. Life is asking me to dance and he has a twinkle in his eye I can’t resist. Sometimes I try to take the lead and that’s when I end up stepping on his toes. The best times, I find, are when I surrender to the flow of the dance, have fun and be in the moment of it.

You can sit on the sidelines if you like. You can shake your head as I twirl and pirouette past, thinking ‘gosh, what tangent is she off on now?’. But you can bet that one day, when that mystery man Death taps me on the shoulder and asks me for the next waltz or cha cha cha, I will smile back at Life and all the crazy dances we had together, and think ‘at least I never sat a chance to dance out’.

And never fall into the trap of thinking that the quest for self-fulfilment or actualisation is a selfish one. Well – in a way it is, in that it requires a focus on the self, a commitment to listen only to one’s own truth and follow one’s own instincts. But if everyone were more selfish, I think we would all be a little more happy. A lot more, in fact. Why do we all go around trying to make each other happy while letting ourselves be miserable? We just end up with a lot of miserable, unselfish people. Why not make ourselves happy first, then you can end up with a whole lot of happy people who get to share their happiness with each other.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

…as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
– Marianne Williamson

Dance your dance, follow your road, brave your own wet and cold moments for the adventure of it all, and decide that you’d rather risk who you could be than know who you’re not.

And don’t worry – no one knows the steps. Often we all look quite silly. Sometimes we’re tired. Sometimes we want to give up. And then the band starts up the salsa, and your toe starts tapping and you want to give in to the music but you don’t know the way.

Dance anyway.


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